I’m having a bit of a dilemma and I’ve talked about this with some friends but I figured I’d gather some opinions from the wise men on FIF.
I want to describe my situation as briefly as possible:
I met this chick around 2,5 years ago and we kept in touch mainly due to university stuff and covid lockdown boredom. We met a couple of times and I would have described her as a good acquaintance, but not much more than that, until a while ago. Unfortunately the type of feelings we have for each other aren’t mutual, I know that she has a massive crush on me.
After a while though her personality came through more and more and she turned out to be a VERY naive and childish person. It’s clear that she doesn’t really have a grasp on how life works, like at all. I won’t give examples but some of her views were just shocking for a person her age. She has the mindset of a 13 year old despite being in her 20s.
Anyway… as time passed I found her to be quite repulsive and grew increasingly annoyed with her. I may add that she is by far the most aggressively annoying person I have ever met and being annoying is one of the worst character traits that on can have imo.
Now here’s where things get complicated: The girl has some dirt on my, alright, that means I won’t take the risk of telling her to fuck off in a mean way, because that could have some severe consequences for me. I won’t disclose what that is, but it’s bad.
I hoped she’d take the fucking hint when I stopped initiating conversations with her and didn’t even bother to properly reply to her messages anymore.
After about a month of radio silence I thought I finally got rid of her until a few days ago, when she came back. And oh boy did she come back. I was hit by a fucking avalanche of messages- WE BARELY HAVE ANY CONTACT ANYMORE, YOU’RE AWARE OF THIS, RIGHT? :/ :/ LETS GO FOR A COFFEE; LETS GO TO A 3-DAY FESTIVAL!!! (and also loads of other shit). Literally all of this at once. I don’t want to meet her, in fact I don’t even want to reply to her.
At this point she’s just a disrespectful annoying cunt and I just want her TO LEAVE ME THE FUCK ALONE. She’s probably thinking there’s still a chance of a romantic relationship at this point. We ain’t friends, heck I don’t even like her. If she didn’t have leverage on me I would have politely told her that we’re not a good fit or straight up blocked her.
I couldn’t collect enough motivation to reply yet and I’m not sure what to do since she could go ballistic at any point. I thought about telling her I was gay but she probably knows that I’m not. And even if she bites I don’t want to be her gay best friend. I want her out of my life because she drives me fucking nuts.
Any other ideas on how to approach this?