Ok, so here's my problem when it comes to doing any language study with, literally, any language:
I have zero capability of understand the grammatical nuance that goes into languages. At all.
For example - these last few days I've decided to start putting together a Google Sheet for Italian words, phrases, stuff of that sort. I do this kind of thing with any language I'm either studying or might like to study in the future for a few reasons, the two most obvious reasons being that it gives me a quick place to consolidate information that I've learned off websites or from books and have it placed in one easy to access link (and, yes, online because my computers have a bad tendency to go bust and I'm not going to risk not having an up-to-date copy on a USB drive, and I'm not totally about always updating USB drives either), as well as the fact that the act of having to write down what you're reading helps to reinforce it just that little bit more into your memory. I've got spreadsheets in several languages, though all of them have room for added information, of course.
But, you know, ok, I decide to poke around on Reddit earlier and look at the sub they have for Italian language study and, well, I come across this (and it could be many other things, this is just the example I saw) and I see this:
Traditionally, intransitive verbs for which essere is normally used, including verbs such as andare, venire, partire, arrivare, uscire, entrare, stare, rimanere, morire, diventare, succedere and so on, or other verbs, when used in an intransitive or reflexive way that would require essere as the auxiliary for the present perfect, will also take essere when used with auxiliary verbs such as dovere, potere, volere, and so on.
Now, I don't doubt that a lot of you people with actual grammatical understanding capabilities could read that and know exactly what was being said, and what all those things like "intransitive" and "reflexive" and whatever mean. Me, however?
Like, what the fuck does that stuff even mean? I remember taking grammar classes when I was in, well, we call it middle school here in the United States, I dunno what it's called elsewhere in the world but during my 6th-8th grade years (age 11-14), and, frankly, I couldn't even do this shit well to any degree in English, and English is my g-ddamned mother tongue. I can speak English and speak it generally quite well because I have 25 years of experience of speaking it. I didn't have to, you know, "learn" it in a way where I consciously realized I was learning it. That's not the case with any other language that I would want to study, or was forced to study (or, well, "study") when I was in school. It doesn't help that my interest in linguistics that I have now didn't exist when I was in grade school. Like, at all. I'm not going to express regret because literally every adult-aged person on the planet has things they wish they did differently when they were in grade school, or just when they were a kid in general, but those experiences shape who we become as adults anyway. But I digress, I find language study fascinating, and it's something I really would want to be better at somewhere down the road (hopefully not too far down it) because I kinda hate thinking that English is the only language I can really speak*, but while there are other ways I guess of being able to learn languages without being too much able to comprehend grammatical concepts, the only way I can really think of that would, well, "work", is the brute force way of immersing yourself in a given language entirely and basically learning to spot patterns of which words fit in which cases and memorizing it. It can work, sure, but it's a much more difficult way of doing it, surely.
I'm not really sure where I'm going with this. Just a bit of a frustrating problem and, well, this thread on a language with people all across the world who come from non-English speaking countries on an English-language forum seemed like about as good a place as any to write this out towards. Thanks for reading, those of you who did.
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People born in English-speaking countries definitely have a disadvantage with this stuff